It’s my life

It’s My Life – Bon Jovi

This song.. always hits home to me. It came on last night at the gym and it reminded me that this is my life. And I’m going to live it my way. Sometimes I think we all get stuck in whatever is happening and we start just going with the flow. When we stop and look around we have lost sight of the goal we were once seeking. We have taken a different path, lost track, and become displaced. It’s not always a bad thing but is it what you want? 

This song makes me stop. It makes me think about where I want to go. How I want to live and who I want to be. Not always a pleasant or comfortable experience realising you’ve gotten lost in the commotion. But it’s a very necessary thing too. 

I wonder if this happens to anyone else? Maybe there’s a particular song that makes you stop and reasses your life? 


Lyrics

This ain’t a song for the broken-hearted

No silent prayer for the faith-departed

I ain’t gonna be just a face in the crowd

You’re gonna hear my voice

When I shout it out loud

It’s my life

It’s now or never

I ain’t gonna live forever

I just want to live while I’m alive

(It’s my life)

My heart is like an open highway

Like Frankie said

I did it my way

I just want to live while I’m alive

It’s my life

This is for the ones who stood their ground

It’s for Tommy and Gina who never backed down

Tomorrow’s getting harder, make no mistake

Luck ain’t enough

You’ve got to make your own breaks

It’s my life

And it’s now or never

I ain’t gonna live forever

I just want to live while I’m alive

(It’s my life)

My heart is like an open highway

Like Frankie said

I did it my way

I just want to live while I’m alive

It’s my life

You better stand tall when they’re calling you out

Don’t bend, don’t break, baby, don’t back down

It’s my life

And it’s now or never

I ain’t gonna live forever

I just want to live while I’m alive

(It’s my life)

My heart is like an open highway

Like Frankie said

I did it my way

I just want to live while I’m alive

(It’s my life)

Self Compassion 

Once I would have said that comparison is part of human nature. Recently I have come to the realisation that it isn’t something we are all born with. It is something that society has taught us.

If each of us stopped comparing ourselves to others I’m sure we would feel better about ourselves and therefore more comfortable with each other. Does it matter that your friend is taller than you? Slimmer than you are? Or faster? Or stronger? What should matter is whatever task you’re applying yourself to is your own journey. As long as you do your best – that’s enough. 

And to know that your best is enough.. that would be enlightening. Who are you trying to impress? Who is your harshest critic? I bet it’s not your friends – I would think your harshest critic is actually yourself. 

Stop beating yourself up. Learn to have self compassion. You are trying your best. You are not competing against anyone else. You will have your ups and downs but you are human. You are stronger than you think. Be kind to yourself.

You might be a glorious mess – that’s okay. That glorious mess is enough. If your friend was in the same situation as you are now  – would you judge them? Would you treat them harshly? Say terrible things to them? No, you wouldn’t. So why would you do that to yourself?

Remember who you are. This sounds simple and strange really – but it’s not. If you spend all your time comparing yourself to others you begin to lose sight of what makes you special. 

Your self worth comes from you. Sounds simple right? Yet many of us seek the approval of others. We value their opinions about ourselves more than we value our own. Why? The only person who knows your whole journey is you. So why is your opinion of lesser value? 

You are YOU. You alone are special, unique, and amazing. Your super power is that you’re an individual. You need to believe that you are deserving of compassion, respect, and love. You don’t need someone else to provide these things for you. You have the power to do this on your own. You need to trust yourself.

Respect yourself and treat yourself with kindness. When you can do this.. nothing will stop you. You will also then be able to show this love and compassion to others without comparing yourself and your journey to everyone else. 

Show your soul the unconditional love that you show your family and friends. 

You have a big heart and there’s enough love in it to share some with yourself. 

Change 

Change. For a small word – it has a lot of meaning. We all experience change in our lives. Sometimes it happens naturally, gradually, and mostly unnoticed like the way we grow from a child to an adult. Sometimes it happens suddenly and traumatically. And sometimes we decide to change. 


Change is inevitable. Nothing can stay exactly as it was forever. We change, we grow, and so does our environment.


We learn, we experience, and sometimes that leads us to a new perspective. You may enjoy reading the same page of your story over and over and not realise that you have in fact become stagnant. When you realise this you may be the one who wishes to turn the page and continue on with your story. Or you may have someone turn that page for you – whether you wished it or not.

Whichever way your change came about.. whether you chose it or not, it was going to happen at some point. Change can be frightening. Yet there’s something that may help you feel stronger – you have the power to control your reaction to change. You have the power to choose your new direction. You have the power to adapt. It might not seem like much – but it is. This is your life. You pick where you apply your energy. Are you going to hold onto something that ultimately didn’t make you happy? 


If you have chosen to move on from a situation – you have most likely come to the realisation that you’re not as happy in that place as you once were. If you have been pushed to change your life – then perhaps it wasn’t as great as you thought it was. In both experiences the situation was likely not making you happy or will not continue to make you happy. So why fight so hard to stay there? Why not fight harder to find something that will bring happiness and abundance to your life?


You might say that because the change had been thrust upon you that it was unjust. Perhaps it was. But really think about it – will fighting and resisting and staying in that place help you in the long run? Will being surrounded by the catalyst of change lead to a happier future? I’m not saying that it’s wrong to fight for what you believe in. Or that unjust situations should be ignored. I am simply suggesting that you think more deeply upon the situation and search for what will ultimately benefit you and the ones you care about.

Sudden change can feel disorienting, and anxiety inducing. It can feel like your world has been smashed to tiny pieces. Breathe. Hang in there. It will get better – but you have to hold on. 


Just as the caterpillar goes through a dark stage within the chrysalis so will you. Have faith that this too will change. Eventually you will find the courage to break out of your chrysalis and you will find that you have transformed. You will grow your own wings and you will fly to lofty heights. 


There is something that you must remember.. only you can do this. No one else can live your journey. You might have friends support you along the way but only you can live your life.

Courage, dear heart.

This bought a smile to my lips. Courage comes in all shapes and forms. For some courage looks like a spectacular show of fire works and for others (me included) it is a small flame in the darkness. This doesn’t mean that I am less courageous than others, my courage just comes across differently. 

Courage is that last grain of hope that you store in your heart. It’s all that’s left once your strength has passed.  It gives you the power to try once more. 


It is the key to life. Courage is not exclusive to any one person – we can all be courageous. For some, courage is the ability to keep trying and for others it takes courage to finally let go.


It takes courage to keep believing that life will get better. It takes courage to rebuild your life after trauma. It takes courage to live.


It takes courage to resist fear, to master fear, but courage also cannot exist without fear. So if you were never afraid then you would never have courage.


Courage is not something for the faint hearted. Courage is powerful. It can change your life. 


Many people assume only an elite person would have courage. This isn’t true. Courage is overcoming your fear – whatever that fear may be. Courage may be standing up for yourself loudly, and proudly. Courage may be standing up for yourself quietly, diplomatically, cautiously. Courage is starting something new, but it’s also finishing something that has long been your goal. 


Courage can be graceful, and courage can also be that last grunt before you cross the finish line. Courage is as unique to each individual as a snow flake is in a flurry.


Courage may be one single feat or it may be the combination of daily battles. Courage is perseverance to keep on trying. It’s the ability to go on when you think your battle is lost. Courage is the will to live. 


It takes courage to push away from all that you’ve ever known. It takes courage to walk a new and unfamiliar path. It takes courage to rebuild your life. It takes courage to let go of what no longer makes you happy.


It takes courage to know that this is not how the story is going to end. It takes..


It takes courage to be the heroine (or hero) of your own story.

It takes courage, dear heart, to be who you are.

‘Hummingbird’ by Kitten D’Amour 

Below is a snippet taken from Kitten D’Amour:

The story behind the beautiful ‘Hummingbird’ print as told by Alana (designer of all things Kitten)! …….We were very fortunate to have come across this fabric in a Parisian flea market ..a long time ago ( when I used to go on holidays 😬😬). The Brocante dealer had just been commissioned to sell many items from a beautiful 75 room Cheateau just outside of Normandy. ..The Chateau dated back from the 1700’s…

He found many gorgeous fabrics that were still rolled up and unused in their original state on the very top floor of the chateau. Not to mention many gorgeous Wallpapers that were also in there original wrapping paper.

One of those fabrics was the Hummingbird floral design that we have carefully replicated and bought back to life for our Hummingbird collection.

The original fabric itself dates back to the late 1800’s. 

A picture of the original fabric from the Chateau is attached below..

Who would have thought that this gorgeous design that sat unwanted and unused in a French Chateau for hundreds of years, covered in 18th century dust would finally make her grand debut on Thursday at Kitten D’Amour!

https://www.kittendamour.com/brand_collections/hummingbird 



I absolutely love my new maxi dress and fascinator 😊

Unique 

Are you afraid of someone knowing the true you? You shouldn’t be. You are unique.

This is a hard lesson to learn. Each of us has a different life path and while we may enjoy sharing that path with others from time to time, there will be twists and turns that only we can traverse. 

Those individual adventures that we must take build our characters. They help to shape who we are and also who we will become. Each of us are rare gems. These journeys make us more precious and allow us to sparkle and shine.

We may meet others on our journey who don’t understand our choices, or our thoughts. That’s okay. We will also meet people who just click with us and they will help us on our way. 

We have to remember to be ourselves. Don’t change for someone else – be an original. There’s only one of you! And that’s a very special thing. 

Be proud of who you are.


Be proud of your story.

Be unique. Be you.

Winnie the Pooh

A friend of mine posted a Winne the Pooh quote on Facebook. I don’t know if anyone else is a fan – I loved it as a child and I love it now. Just for different reasons. As a child it was a usually happy story with cute characters. Now as an adult.. the book/film/show is full of beautiful messages.