I tend to agree with this quote. I’m sure all of us have waited for someone else to cheer us up or to make our lives better. Perhaps, at the time we were unaware that we could make our own lives better.
When I was a little girl my nanna (grandmother) once told me some sage advice. When you are feeling sad, do your best to cheer other people up. As a seven year old, I followed her instructions without question. And I guess this became an ingrained habit throughout my childhood. One must bear in mind that my childhood woes were very small worries – though they felt huge back then. I still try to follow this advice now.
Sometimes as we grow and experience events that can no longer be passed off as a childhood woe, we forget that we have the capacity to remain kind. We forget that there are others in this world who also need our help. We forget about everyone, and everything. Our world begins to shrink, darken, and become lonely. In that dark time we feel as if no one cares – yet in reality we are the ones who yanked the door shut. It was us who closed the blinds. It was also us who didn’t answer the doorbell. We need to open the door. And sometimes we need to put our own problems aside and assist another person. This sounds crazy.. especially if you’re feeling as though you’re barely coping yourself. But it’s not.
If you feel useful, you feel valued. You also take your mind off of your own problems which means you are giving yourself perspective and time to heal. The more you immerse yourself in assisting others, the more you grow and feel part of the world again. Your problem may still be there but it is no longer running your life. You will start to take control.
You will rise. You will rise out of the depths of despair. You will learn. You will also find that you have far more friends than you ever felt possible.
My nan did clarify that you will not feel better if your actions aren’t from the heart. She was explaining that true kindness is a way to heal your heart and others. You have to assist others without thought of it how it benefits you.