In many ways I believe this. I am a person with an unusual personality type – INFJ. While I am friendly with many, I wouldn’t say that they were close relationships. Once I make a deep connection with someone it’s usually a long term friendship. These deep connections don’t happen very often but I cherish them when they do.
I think it’s important to reach out and check in with your friends. Whether it’s an email, text, Facebook message, or a phone call. Sometimes you won’t know that your friend is in need – some friends find it hard to say they’re struggling.
Likewise, when you’re in need.. your friends are better equipped to help you if they know what’s been happening in your life. So if you suddenly go quiet.. they might just be aware that something isn’t quite right.
I am blessed that I have friends who know the difference immediately. This isn’t because I can’t hide my emotions – it’s because they care deeply enough to recognise when I’m feeling down. These are the friends you want in your life.
These are the friends who ask you how you’re doing, and they actually listen to your response because they care. It’s easy to reply that you’re ‘good’ and most people will not stop to think about your response. They were only asking as it’s a greeting and were not actually interested in your response. An astute friend will look you in the eye.. and know.