Winnie the Pooh

A friend of mine posted a Winne the Pooh quote on Facebook. I don’t know if anyone else is a fan – I loved it as a child and I love it now. Just for different reasons. As a child it was a usually happy story with cute characters. Now as an adult.. the book/film/show is full of beautiful messages. 


Friendship 

Any thoughts?

In many ways I believe this. I am a person with an unusual personality type – INFJ. While I am friendly with many, I wouldn’t say that they were close relationships. Once I make a deep connection with someone it’s usually a long term friendship. These deep connections don’t happen very often but I cherish them when they do. 


I might not see my close friends often – due to distance, commitments, time, but these friends stand by me no matter my life circumstances. 


And I try my best to do the same for them. We may go months and sometimes years without seeing each other. But when we do finally catch up, nothing between us has changed. 


I think it’s important to reach out and check in with your friends. Whether it’s an email, text, Facebook message, or a phone call. Sometimes you won’t know that your friend is in need – some friends find it hard to say they’re struggling.


Likewise, when you’re in need.. your friends are better equipped to help you if they know what’s been happening in your life. So if you suddenly go quiet.. they might just be aware that something isn’t quite right. 


I am blessed that I have friends who know the difference immediately. This isn’t because I can’t hide my emotions – it’s because they care deeply enough to recognise when I’m feeling down. These are the friends you want in your life. 

These are the friends who ask you how you’re doing, and they actually listen to your response because they care. It’s easy to reply that you’re ‘good’ and most people will not stop to think about your response. They were only asking as it’s a greeting and were not actually interested in your response. An astute friend will look you in the eye.. and know. 


Friends are of vital importance. Without friendship where would we be? Who would we be? I’d be lost. 


I want to thank my friends for always sticking by me.. not sure how many read this but that’s okay too! Thank you to my friends who make me laugh even when I have tears in my eyes.

Stand by Me

I am truly blessed to have beautiful friends. And when I think of friends – this song comes to mind. Finding strength in friends is such a blessing. 

Lyrics 

When the night has come

And the land is dark

And the moon is the only light we see

No I won’t be afraid

No I won’t be afraid

Just as long as you stand, stand by me

And darling, darling stand by me

Oh, now, now, stand by me

Stand by me, stand by me

If the sky that we look upon

Should tumble and fall

And the mountain should crumble to the sea

I won’t cry, I won’t cry

No I won’t shed a tear

Just as long as you stand, stand by me

And darling, darling stand by me

Oh, stand by me

Stand by me, stand by me, stand by me

Whenever you’re in trouble won’t you stand by me

Oh, now, now, stand by me

Oh, stand by me, stand by me, stand by me

Darling, darling stand by me

Stand by me

Oh stand by me, stand by me, stand by me

Ben E King – Stand by Me

Resilience 

Lately I have experienced the ‘knocked down’ part of this quote. I am sure everyone feels it at least once in their lifetime. I know that I have. I also know that I have gotten back up many times over. This time has been my hardest to get back up. It doesn’t mean that I had ever completely given up it just means that my usual coping strategies had become annulled. I am usually a very resilient person who springs back into the game of life as if I had special bouncy boots on my feet. I usually try to find the positive in every situation and find something to be grateful for.

And as the quote above does truthfully state sometimes you don’t really know or fully understand the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. I’m learning to find value in this very long, and rather painful moment. I have found that I am actually surrounded by the most beautiful, kind, and giving hearts imaginable.


Now I’m not quite sure that I have screwed up but I do know that my life has been especially challenging the last few weeks. But the amount of people who have come forth to tell me they care, to check in, to ask if I’m okay – has been overwhelming. Sometimes I feel like the universe is trying to realign itself and sort out these challenges by showing the person who is suffering that just because they are feeling as if the darkness is engulfing them that there is also a force of light trying to break through that person’s never ending night.


There is plenty of light. My friends, my loved ones, my animals, and even those around me who don’t know me so well – have offered to share the light to help me regain my strength and my will. 


These people have literally been little candles. Giving me some spark to reignite my flame. It’s hard – usually I’m the one trying to cheer others up and help get people back on their feet. It’s hard to admit that I am the vulnerable one right now. I have a weakness too. I never thought I was bullet proof but I also never thought I’d be so full of bullet holes and unsure of which to patch up first. But then again without these wounds.. I’d never know how strong my will to survive was either. It might take time to restitch each bullet wound, but I know I won’t be alone completing this task.

And then the humbling part of this long drawn out post hits home. My struggles that appear so big in my mind are so insignificant compared to what others have gone through. 


I speak of bullet wounds as a metaphor… yet my wounds are minor – not even a scratch compared to some of the most courageous souls who walk this earth. 


I know my courage is greater than my fear. I know that I must be strong. My story is nothing compared to those living through war, famine, natural disasters,.. I fear the unknown but I cannot imagine what those who have had their lives literally torn asunder are going through. I will own my story. I will choose what will happen in the next chapter and I will grow and learn from this chapter.

I will also never forget those who came forth to help me when I didn’t know how to help myself.