Anger

I hope this makes you (dear reader), question your emotions too. At first I read this and thought, ‘yeah, good quote..’ and then I really thought about it. What does your anger really achieve? Other than making yourself worked up. I’m not saying that it is wrong to feel angry. We all do at times. And sometimes the cause is very justifiable. But does it really change your situation? I find if I’m angry, I can’t think logically through a situation.  I thought I would delve deeper into ‘anger’.


This is the first thing that came to mind. No one is immune to anger. We all have something that will make us angry – it may be an injustice inflicted upon you or someone you care about; it could be a misunderstanding; it could come from just about any situation.  I don’t think anyone is immune to anger. Though, I am not a scientist so please don’t take this as hard facts! 

I have found that if I’m too angry about a situation, then I am unable to remedy that situation. Once I cool off I can usually understand what’s happened and then I’m able to work on solutions for the situation. It doesn’t mean I like or accept what’s happening but at least there’s a chance to understand it. 


This sounds like it is easy. It’s not. But it does help you to see that you still have some control. The situation is out of your control – but you, your mind, your body – they are yours alone to control. You have a choice. Even just knowing that, gives me some control over a situation… what do you think?


Interesting? Well think about everything you could or might say if you try to fix a situation when you’re angry. You may regret some words or some actions that were committed in anger. 


This made me smile. We can’t manage other people or change how they act or feel or what they say.. you only have control over yourself. Breathe. 

Life’s Path

Today is the day I start to do. That doesn’t look like a complete sentence but it is. I am going to get out there and DO things to ensure that I can grow to be the person I want to be. 


Sometimes you don’t always understand why certain circumstances arise. Sometimes you have absolutely no control over this. But you can choose how you react to these uncontrollable issues. I am choosing to recreate my path in life. 

Lately, I have been feeling very lost. But perhaps that’s just been what I need to reset my inner compass. Maybe I have been stagnant too long on my current path and have allowed moss to grip the rocks that were once smooth stepping stones. This doesn’t mean I was unhappy on my verdant mossy path, but perhaps my souls knows that if I walk on I will find something more. 

Something better. 

Beginnings

Even starting a new way of thinking is hard. It’s like a caterpillar finally realising it is a butterfly. A creature with wings, freedom, and a whole new world of opportunities.. as long as you can get your head around change. 


Nature really is incredible. How can creatures transform into completely different creatures with different anatomical structures and instinctively understand their new bodies and their new lives. We humans (who are apparently very intelligent) can struggle to even change our way of thinking. Perhaps the key is to change your way of being.


Perhaps Darwin is correct. The person able to adapt to change will be the one who not only survives but who will also prosper. 


I used to watch this show all the time – ‘Grey’s Anatomy’. But strangely it is the first time I have ever read this quote. More strangely still, it rings true. I think all of us have that little self trapped inside of us. The one who is infinitely more talented and capable than the self we present to the world. Perhaps we are all too scared to free our wings and be that person. 


We do need to learn to adapt and then perhaps we can learn to fly or to surf or ski or whatever it is you need to do to be able to move forward and be who you know you can be. 

Take a Breath

Very true, but not always as easy as it sounds. Lately it’s been many deep breaths and constant reminders to myself that I will get through this. And if I can overcome my obstacles I’m sure that anyone reading this out there also has the power to overcome theirs.

I am not taking away from your struggle – I am sure that you or someone you know is going through a tough time. I just know that I am not an extraordinary human, I’m an everyday person. I go through everyday problems – I have my shares of ups and downs. And if this everyday person (me) can get through her challenges then I’m sure that you (dear reader) will also get through yours. 


Now please excuse the language in this quote. But I definitely have been giving myself pep talks. And there’s much to be said for it. Give it a go. It might help you. Sometimes I laugh at myself and that helps, other times it seriously makes me feel stronger.


If all of your other coping strategies have failed.. it is time to think outside the box. Maybe reaching out to a friend, a loved one, or even writing your thoughts down may help you. 

Resilience 

Lately I have experienced the ‘knocked down’ part of this quote. I am sure everyone feels it at least once in their lifetime. I know that I have. I also know that I have gotten back up many times over. This time has been my hardest to get back up. It doesn’t mean that I had ever completely given up it just means that my usual coping strategies had become annulled. I am usually a very resilient person who springs back into the game of life as if I had special bouncy boots on my feet. I usually try to find the positive in every situation and find something to be grateful for.

And as the quote above does truthfully state sometimes you don’t really know or fully understand the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. I’m learning to find value in this very long, and rather painful moment. I have found that I am actually surrounded by the most beautiful, kind, and giving hearts imaginable.


Now I’m not quite sure that I have screwed up but I do know that my life has been especially challenging the last few weeks. But the amount of people who have come forth to tell me they care, to check in, to ask if I’m okay – has been overwhelming. Sometimes I feel like the universe is trying to realign itself and sort out these challenges by showing the person who is suffering that just because they are feeling as if the darkness is engulfing them that there is also a force of light trying to break through that person’s never ending night.


There is plenty of light. My friends, my loved ones, my animals, and even those around me who don’t know me so well – have offered to share the light to help me regain my strength and my will. 


These people have literally been little candles. Giving me some spark to reignite my flame. It’s hard – usually I’m the one trying to cheer others up and help get people back on their feet. It’s hard to admit that I am the vulnerable one right now. I have a weakness too. I never thought I was bullet proof but I also never thought I’d be so full of bullet holes and unsure of which to patch up first. But then again without these wounds.. I’d never know how strong my will to survive was either. It might take time to restitch each bullet wound, but I know I won’t be alone completing this task.

And then the humbling part of this long drawn out post hits home. My struggles that appear so big in my mind are so insignificant compared to what others have gone through. 


I speak of bullet wounds as a metaphor… yet my wounds are minor – not even a scratch compared to some of the most courageous souls who walk this earth. 


I know my courage is greater than my fear. I know that I must be strong. My story is nothing compared to those living through war, famine, natural disasters,.. I fear the unknown but I cannot imagine what those who have had their lives literally torn asunder are going through. I will own my story. I will choose what will happen in the next chapter and I will grow and learn from this chapter.

I will also never forget those who came forth to help me when I didn’t know how to help myself.